Danielle Keeler

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Be confident

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I cannot stress this point enough.  It drives me insane to see girls who are so horribly self-conscious, and they think it makes them appealing.  It’s not cute to see someone who has so little respect for their self that it’s obvious to the rest of the world.  It’s annoying to hear “I’m fat” over and over from a girl who weighs 90 pounds soaking wet.  However, this is not limited to girls–it’s guys too.

I have a guy friend who has zero self-esteem.  He’s self conscious about his stomach, his acne scars (which I’ve seen, and they’re really not that bad), his hair, his skin, everything.  That kind of vanity is so incredibly unattractive, and completely turned me off when I first met him, even though he’s a very good looking guy.  The problem is, as soon as I met him, I could see that he had no confidence, and in my mind, it made him less attractive.

I don’t mean to sound insensitive about this.  Until I was about sixteen, I had horrible self-esteem.  I know how much it can hurt. It sucks.  But looking back on how I acted, I was one of those annoying girls.  Once I found my confidence, I was prettier, and other people noticed.  My friend Lauren came up to me one day, about two years ago, and said this:  “I don’t know what changed about you, but you’ve been so pretty lately.  I don’t think anything has physically changed–I’m just noticing it more.”  This was within two months of me realizing how pretty I am.  It’s not arrogant to realize you’re beautiful.  Rather, it’s arrogant to think that because you are beautiful, you are better than others.  Everyone, provided they take care of themselves, is beautiful.  Most of the world just doesn’t realize it.

It is not just outer beauty that people cannot see in themselves.  Many people have doubts about who they are, and whether they are worthy of being noticed.  The fact of the matter is, most people who are deemed “annoying” “stupid” or anything else, its because their behavior is fueled by low self-esteem.  Girls who are labeled “whores” typically act the way they do because they have no respect for themselves.  I’m not saying being confident makes your life easy, but it eliminates a large amount of problems before they begin.

I could not date a man who is not confident in himself.  My boyfriend is very similar to me in that he loves himself for who he is, and he knows he deserves respect.  This was what first drew me to him; I could see that while he was confident, he knew that he was still just a person, and no better than anyone else.  I could see that he genuinely cared about everyone, and that he wanted everyone to be as happy as he was.  He is not afraid to stand up for himself or anyone else, and I love that about him.

In conclusion, realize this: you are beautiful, inside and out.  I know it sounds redundant, but it really is true.  And if you ever feel like no one loves you, please email me.  I love you without even knowing you, and so do so many others–let us be here for you.

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Written by Danielle Keeler

August 21, 2011 at 1:04 pm

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  1. love love love this post :)

    leeleegirl4

    August 21, 2011 at 3:47 pm

    • Thank you (: confidence something I want so badly for everyone to have…because I know what it’s like to have none, and it’s horrible.

      Danielle Keeler

      August 21, 2011 at 4:44 pm

  2. I agree with this all 100%. Great post!

    Sincerely, Average.

    August 22, 2011 at 12:17 am


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